Why I Think It’s A Good Idea For Me To Keep Talking About Vampire Types–


[Original title: Why I Think It’s A Good Idea For Me To Keep Talking About Vampire Types, Even Though It Seems To Irritate Some of My Colleagues]

[…but the entire title wouldn’t fit on the t-shirt.]

In the time that I’ve been actively participating in the Vampire Subculture, I’ve seen strong reaction from members that have a problem with using vampire type subcategories. While I have my reasons why I think it is a good idea to be specific about particular subdivisions, I have to make some assumptions about why others have a problem with breaking down Modern Vampires into subcategories.

One argument that some members have for not using subcategories (and for leaving all Modern Vampires to be considered as “Vampires,” without any subdivisions) is that it supposedly creates a division in the community. My disagreement with this concept is that divisiveness is a personality technique that many people use anyway–even if the rest of us stick to describing everything and everyone in the most general, unifying terms possible. These divisive personalities will find some other reason to break up the subculture into camps and sides, for some other reasons, if they really want to.

I have an analytical approach to looking at other peoples’ experiences. Personally, I want to understand and acknowledge the individual’s experience, including their personal interpretation and understanding of that experience. I can perceive the different aspects that make up a person’s reality and honor them, without using the excuse of differences as a reason to distance myself from them. The details of a person’s life are the tones and shades of the colors in the tapestry of their reality. Some of us can enjoy the differences between people, and not use those differences as an excuse to judge, villanize or distance ourselves from those that are different.

I can look at the particular details of someone else’s story, still have my own preferences, AND still not judge them for their interpretation and perceptions. If I have a personal dislike for any individual’s experience, it is because they are doing something which I find negative. I might not agree with a particular activity, or it is not to my taste.  It is not simply because I need to be in opposition to anyone else.

Let us be honest about our individual experience under the collective term of Modern Vampirism–accepting at face value that everyone who calls themselves a “vampire” is a “vampire” is only useful for the party and role player scene. We need to use subcategories to focus on meeting needs for the subgroups that our needs naturally put us into.  Some of us focus on the information network that we’ve built–sharing articles on research and ongoing theories, as well as the social web necessary for personal support.  There are two very distinct aspects to the Vampire subculture–the information network and the social events scene.

Obviously, sang feeders need to know very technical aspects of sang feeding for practical reasons. In the realm of energy feeding, the reasons for needing to know whether one really has a need for feeding on an energetic level are a little more complicated. Let us define our terms and clarify what is energy vampirism–

On spiritual, psychic and astral levels–humans take and exchange energy all the time. This is a normal non-physical experience. In some metaphysical schools, we use the term “energy vampire” to describe those people who need a higher amount of energy than normal; who fare better by feeding directly from the energy of fellow human’s energy systems; AND who often have energy systems that automatically feed from the energy systems of those around them, when they are in need of that energy.

There are some schools of metaphysics which view the condition of vampirism as a sort of illness, a defect in the energy system. In this context, the concept of “temporary vampirism” is something that can be cured. The need for an auric system to automatically drain those around themselves would indicate a temporary condition which could be fixed. However, if after repeated attempts at curing energy vampirism does not take care of the condition, one has to make room for the possibility that the Energy Vampire (or Psychic Vampire) is just simply another type of human on the spiritual spectrum.

To the advanced practitioner of metaphysics, we make room for the idea that while we can definitely (and should) make use of the practical information and spiritually-theoretical information that we have–as humans, it is arrogant to assume that if we do not understand something completely or cannot yet measure it, it surely must not exist. Not that we should also take everything at face value, but that some things in life are on a sliding scale….and are valuable to work with on a conceptual level….in some cases….for some people.

There are some members of the Vampire Community who assume that there are non-Vampiric humans and “Vampires”.  To lump all “Vampires” into the same category with all of the same needs is just as unhelpful as lumping non-Vampires into the same category and ignoring that their needs might vary, depending on their individual history and current physical and psychological makeup.

If we see energy feeding as an activity in all humans, on the spiritual level–we can use another psychic activity as an analogy.  While any human can see clairvoyantly, if they have the conviction that they are able to do so and are able to remove those mental and emotional obstacles which are contrary to their success in seeing–there are humans who consider themselves Clairvoyants because this talent seemed to be inherently accessible without having practiced it before any of their seemingly SPONTANEOUS clairvoyant experiences. The same goes for those people who consider themselves “natural Witches”, healers or anything else which falls within the realm of the supernatural, psychic, magickal or energetic phenomena that is experienced by humans. In metaphysical teachings, everything is a choice on higher levels of consciousness….but, relative to how we describe “choice,” “conscious choice,” and “karmic obligation”; some conditions of physical life seem to be unchangeable while we are still in our physical lifetime.

There are some people who are born into this reality with the predisposition to feed energetically on their fellow humans. There is still a discrepancy in the description of “vampires” beyond this basic qualifying condition–which is open for debate in other venues–but for now….I will focus on the trait of “necessary feeding,” as understood in metaphysical terms.

One of the biggest arguments is whether we should categorize Modern Vampires under subgroups. What seems to be one of the most common counter-arguments is that it creates a divisiveness in the subculture. Again, my response to that is that it is possible for me to know everything about another person that is different from myself, but to respect those differences and still find the common ground between us. I am not that extraordinary, so this indicates that this is a possible capacity for response in most of my fellow humans. Also, I’ve found others who are part of my same “groups” (racial, sexual orientation, gender…) that still go out of their way to focus on the differences between us and create that sense of separation because of those differences–this is a technique of a particular personality type.

To be fair, I am the type that is more concerned with the needs of the individual that is interacting with me in the moment.  I am not so much concerned with the needs of presenting a unified front as a gathering of “Vampires.,” if that means completely sacrificing the needs of the individual in the moment of communication.  My personal interpretation of myself as a “Modern Vampire” is that I have been drawn to this umbrella group and will function in that group in a way that is honoring my interpretation of what a Modern Vampire is….or should be. With the assumption that there are many interpretations, just as there are many justifications, for being a participating member of this subculture….I will be completely clear about my personal perspective in being part of this community.

Regardless of what brought me to the community, I find myself in it, at this moment. The Modern version of our global community might have started with a particular vision, but we find ourselves in this current version with the mix of personalities, groups and agendas as it currently stands. Some of us draw on a history or mythos older than our modern subculture. We have our mix of serious scholars and historians, philosophers, thinking members….and our lifestylers, role players and plain-out deluded. There are some of us who interpret and re-interpret Modern Vampirism with little or no reference to the historical, fictional or traditional Vampire.

According to the definitions of some members of the GVC, I might not be a Vampire/Modern Vampire, at all. This is actually okay, with me. I did not come into the community learning about what a Vampire/Modern Vampire was and trying to fit myself into the description. I came in through the metaphysical hallway, putting together an understanding of my experience, and coming into the GVC–being told that there were others like me…Energy Feeders…gathering under the umbrella name of Psychic Vampires or Vampires.

I came in from my experience as an energy worker. In my paradigm, we want to know as much as information as we can, so that we can specifically target issues and offer specific remedies. In magick, we learn about specific correspondences in order to work with energies which correspond to specific manifestations. While it is completely legitimate to pray to Jesus and use Reiki….for some of us, it makes more sense to use blue prana to cool down pain and Venus on a Friday to manifest a more heart-oriented love relationship. Specifics matter for purposes of communication, focus and need.  We work with recipes, dealing with specific ingredients and how they interact with each other.



Bringing this back to our original topic of Vampirism, we use specific types of qualifiers when we want to share specific details about feeding or to discuss issues specific to that particular type of feeder. Regardless of some opinions, everyone who gravitates to the Vampire Subculture might not all be the same kind of spiritual/energetic/psychic creature.

From the viewpoint of the metaphysician, someone who needs to energetically feed (an Energy Vampire) and someone who does not, relies on different energy structures. When viewed clairvoyantly, psychically or through other means….not everyone has the same psychic structure. Whether considering the energy bodies, the chakra system, the meridian system or any other non-physical spiritual/psychic system…the energy system of an Energy Vampire or Psychic Vampire will have some issue or be structured very differently than that of someone who is not an Energy Vampire.

In terms of energy structures and healing issues, we are born into this world with different focuses, issues that need to be healed, disorders and so on. One person might be born with a throat chakra issue or a karmic need to learn to be more outspoken–this person will have more energy directed to and moving through their throat chakra until the issue is resolved. Another person could come in to this incarnation with issues with sexual expression–this being will need to direct more energy and deal with life situations which involve sexual energy, possibly issues of control or validation. Depending on the life lessons, karmic debts and thoughtforms….each individual’s energy system will be set up with trends and tendencies which affect what kind of energy one works with in this lifetime and how they are specifically working with it.

To target, heal and possibly relieve each person of their karmic/healing issues, it is extremely important to know the actual conditions and possible causes to create a healing plan. Even if we do not necessarily think of Energy Vampirism as any sort of disorder that needs to be healed, there might be needs that are very specific to the individual’s energy system that need to be considered.  Another way to think of it is as an analogous to a physical body needing a specific type of diet–not that it is an illness or disorder, so much as it is a situation or condition not standard to the majority of the people.

Someone might be in this incarnation to work with their sexual chakra, sexual issues or sexual energy more than the average person. This might set up their energy system to need to work more in one area of life, with one particular energy much more than any of the others.  The situation of the particular “Vampire” might be more specific than being incarnated as a general “feeder”….but that their particular “dietary needs” might be geared towards a specific life area, some sort of cosmic metaphor or need to focus on a particular part of reality that their vampirism brings their attention to.

Personally–when I am talking to others in the Vampire subculture, I am not interested in celebrating the fictional vampire, partying in vampire costumes and flashing fangs, or role playing. That’s just me. I am interested in living as functional and productive a life as I can, under the description of myself as an Energy Vampire, as I understand that. This is the area of information that I have the most to offer. To help other Energy Vampires and Sang Vampires, I need to discern what they need from me.

My focus is on service through communication, not partying.

And just as I need to collect information when performing energy healing, to discern what kind of information I need to share–I focus on the needs of the Feeder in front of me. This might include discerning which specific feeding needs that they have–beyond discerning the specific needs for their type, I have no other need to divide us into any subcategories for any other reason.


What Happens When A Vampire Gets Burned Out In The Vampire Community?

How does anyone get burned out?  In general, I believe it comes from the frustration of one’s personal experience not being able to match up with one’s personal expectations.  There is nothing wrong with having expectations—the burnout comes when one is emotionally attached to having those expectations manifest in some reasonable facsimile to what one would like to happen.

Not that I think of myself as any sort of elder in the community, but I do see myself as “seasoned”….not anyone new to the Vampire Community, with some measure of time and experience in the Vampire and metaphysical communities.  I came in to the community, not wanting or needing to confirm any identification with the mythical Vampire image.  I had my own spiritual and psychic experience, up to that point that I entered….and fell in with others who shared similar experiences.  These others were gathering under the label of “psychic vampires” and “vampires”.

If we had gathered under one of the umbrellas of the psychic community, some group category like “clairvoyants” or “empaths”–that would have been completely fine with me.  For whatever reason, I found myself interacting with individuals who had comparable realities and who offered me information which made my navigation through my personal world much easier.

Here’s where the positive benefits gets mixed in with the negative–just as any group is not going to only have those who are blessings to our lives, there are also individuals who bring in interactions which are not as productive or beneficial.  We fall into these interactions to the degree which we have the same negative issues or can entertain these issues.  Some of them are not completely bad, but they can sometimes be as simple as distracting us from more positive activities.  Non-productive or wastes of time.

I have come to my own way of understanding my personal experience.  This includes my perception of what I understand as my mental, emotional and spiritual events.  Maybe to some degree, I am using what I think of as “real” to me as the gauge to what I can relate to in others.  Because I constantly evaluate whether my perception is based on accurate observation or wishful thinking, whether my observation is on my subjective experience or objective reality….I expected that all other members of the Vampire Community did the same.  It might have been unfair of me to assume that all members of the Community had the same level of metaphysical leanings, and therefore the same way of working with information.

What seems to be a common trend in many online Vampire groups is the preoccupation with the imagery of the Fictional Vampire.  This includes flooding groups with dark artwork and some role playing.  On one hand, I want to respect everyone’s desire to share whatever information/art that they want.  On the other hand, one part of my brain feels like I was introduced into the Vampire Community under the precept of meeting with individuals who had similar life experiences.  The other precept was that we gather to enrich each other’s lives with relevant information and to support each other socially, simply because we are alike.

Life is full of grey areas–unwritten, unspoken expectations…vague agreements and understandings.  No guarantees.  How much right do I have to disagree or complain because my expectations on what I wanted to experience in the Vampire Community are not being met to the degree to which I envisioned?  Do I have any right to try to make and keep a space that is accordance with my vision of what I want to experience?

Isn’t that what everyone does, without even thinking about it?

Right now, I am still in a state of transition.  I will see what develops naturally.


A Personal Note On My Personal Experience As A Serious Member of The Vampire Community

To be perfectly honest, I’m not sure if I’m currently having a breakdown, a breakthrough or this is just a regular, run-of-the-mill anxiety attack.  At any rate, I seem to have hit that wall that I assume that most serious members of the Vampire Community eventually crash into.

I’m burned out.

Given, my time as a conscious, participating member hasn’t been that long.  Let’s just assume that my involvement in the GVC grew naturally out of my time in the general Pagan/Magickal Community…so that my experience with people who belong to fringe groups has been a continuous series of interactions.

I’m thinking of this as an adjustment period.  I am accepting and getting used to particular working conclusions about what I can expect out of the General Vampire Community…and therefore, with what I will feel comfortable with contributing.

I identify as an Energy Vampire, a Psychic Vampire and/or an Eros Vampire, depending on the situation in which I share this information.  Whenever I use any of these terms, it is at the beginning of a longer dialog.  These labels are shorthand introductions which I explain in fuller detail, for the purposes of a deeper or longer conversation.  I don’t use these terms to get a reaction or for shock value.  I am way beyond thinking that these terms impress people, except when used in role play.

I use these terms because they seem to be the best to use, at the moment.  As they are generally defined in the Community, they encapsulate the experience of those of us who have a particular reality–a subjective experience, a perception, a way of dealing with our internal and external worlds.  From the outside, some people consider energy vampirism a sort of religion….to me, it is more of a philosophy to describe our particular life experience, as we understand it.

That being said, I share my personal experience to be helpful to those in the world who have a similar perception of their experience in this reality.  My secondary intention is to be helpful to those who do not necessarily relate to the same experiences, but get something positive out of sharing any of my information or perspective.

Here is where my ego is becoming frustrated–I perceive so many people who do not necessarily believe that they are having the same internal experience as an energy vampire; but are much more caught up in wanting other people to perceive that they are something special, glamorous, frightening or unique.  I completely accept that this is my problem–that I am reacting to others…that on some level, what they think matters to me.

From what I see and how I interpret it, there are not many magickal, metaphysical or spiritual people.  Many people dip into the waters for occasional or superficial references–but, as far as people who live through the constant reference system….those people are few and far between.

If this is the way it is, I will eventually readjust and accept that.  What seems to be misleading for most of us is that some of us become accustomed to the idea that people are religious or spiritual, because of what they tell us.  As far as living like a spiritual being, some of us are not so constant in our reference points.



How To Get Your Needs Met In The Vampire Community

Welcome to the Vampire Community.
Please excuse the mess. We are currently under the process of reconstruction….uh, renovations…uhm, no, no…some areas are being reconstructed, but then we have some wonderful sitting areas that are just fine. Have you seen our libraries? We have a variety of libraries to choose from. Some even serve alcohol.
To make your stay in the Vampire Community as productive and pleasant as possible, we recommend that you spend a few minutes deciding on what it is that you need and want from the Community, at large. No need to be shy. The only right answer is the honest one.  The more clear you are about which areas you need to be educated in, the quicker you can be directed to the appropriate sources. 
Regardless of how the Modern Vampire Community started…regardless of how mythology defines what a “real vampire” is…regardless of how society understands or misunderstands us….we find ourselves drawn the umbrella group of the GVC, under the various ways of what Vampires, Modern Living Vampires and Real Living Vampires are currently defined as.
We find ourselves gathered on one common ground. The most productive way to spend our time as a group is to respect our various needs and fulfill them to the best of our abilities in ourselves and the newer members that enter our Community. That being said, being perfectly honest about one’s needs comes under the assumption that one has the ability to know, understand and accept what one’s real needs are….and to separate those real needs from one’s wishes and desires.
In this case, the possible problems are that not everyone has the ability to know what is their real needs are….how to communicate them properly to others…and that the other members will accept their communication of those needs, at face value.  Keeping this in mind might help the newcomer take care to express their needs more clearly and to not take any disagreement so personally.
Another mistake that many people make is that they assume that everyone else has the insight and the emotional clarity to understand their own internal psychological processes. Along with this is the additional mistake that some people assume that everyone is respectful of other people’s interpretations of their needs and experience.  Do not assume that EVERY member of the GVC is self-aware, accepting of other’s experience, an expert in any or all fields, or even necessarily helpful.  Allow each person to reveal their best qualities, while not holding it against them that they are still human, with possible human shortcomings. 
The GVC is more of a jungle–OVC and in-person VC, alike. We have our pockets and islands of civilization, but not every area is friendly and cooperative. (This just sounds like the rest of the world to me.) I don’t recommend developing a “thicker skin” to any newcomer.  Either you have one or you don’t. People who try to fake having a thicker skin, when they have actually have a “thin” one….are those sensitive types who are going to pretend that they are not reacting to every little stimulus–when they are actually overreacting internally, until they finally explode (or implode).
If other people’s words trigger your internal reactions, the best thing that you can do is explore which INTERNAL associations you have with those words and concepts and how they are linked to EARLIER events and memories, in your personal history. Strong emotional reactions might be linked to pre-existing mental and emotional thought processes….the associations between current words, images and events and what they remind you of in your personal history.
Kind and helpful people are where you find them. There is a mix of intense personalities in the GVC. Some are cooperative. Some are hostile. Just like the mix of people in the world outside of the GVC. If you don’t find what you need in a particular group–online or in-person–separate yourself from those people and keep looking. On the flipside to that, keep in mind that most of us in the Vampire Community are not being paid to interact with others, so any time/attention/information that is being shared is based on the generosity of those members sharing. Be gracious and appreciative for anything that another member of the GVC shares with you.
And finally, be aware of your personal need for feeling special.  We are navigating through life, together. Give up the need to try to make others validate you or make you feel special. Regardless of what some of us make it look like, this is not the contest to find the next Dracula.  Stop competing.  Stop posing.  Stop flexing–hoping that someone will recognize your amazing powers, that you are descended from vampire royalty, that you’re an old soul, that you’re on a mission from Lilith.  We are all equal as feeders, although we might have different dietary needs. If there is a subconscious, unconscious, unspoken need to feel special….keep in mind, that there are probably PLENTY of other members of the GVC who are at the same level of emotional need to feel the same thing. I won’t tell someone to give up the need to FEEL special–feeling special is completely and more directly fulfilled through private, internal methods.  Feeling special through the validation of others only fulfills one, temporarily.
We have plenty of members in the GVC; but keep in mind that true Elders, Teachers and Leaders are few and far between.  Just because one runs a group, a House or sets themselves up in any position with any title does not mean that they have anything of substance to offer.  As a newcomer, be courteous and respectful….if only because you are entering their territory….and allow each teacher to show you what they have to offer.  If you need to take your leave from them, do it with grace and dignity.  What you need might not all be found in one place, but rather stitched together from different places.

From The House of Shadow Faerie–Leadership

In the world of the Vampire Community, the title of Leader is thrown around carelessly.  In common use, it is almost synonymous with Elder, King or Queen.  Unless these terms are clearly defined, the duties and responsibilities of a Leader are also left undefined….and there is more room for ego trips and personality issues than actual leadership.  A Leader is more of a guide and role model, not the dictator of some social club.

A Leader leads others towards something or away from something else.  What does a Vampire Leader lead to?  There is no Vampire army, so it is not a Leader in the military sense.  A Leader in the Vampire Community leads their people out of ignorance, out of dysfunctionality, out of confusion.  A Leader leads their people into full awareness, helping the newly awakened or misinformed blossom into their full potential as an evolved vampiric being.  This is not the delusion of role playing.  A Leader helps the individual vampire to become aware of and deal with any and all negative aspects of their condition, to the best of both their abilities to facilitate this personal growth.  Also, when applicable, a Leader helps the individual vampire to nurture the positive aspects of their condition–again to the best of the capabilities of both parties involved, in this cooperative effort.

To be an effective Leader in the Community, one must be able to navigate through the waters of social interaction with others, within their own particular group and the cooperative web of other groups and individuals in their network.  To be as effective as possible, it is necessary to be as emotionally neutral as possible when dealing with others.  Humans–all Vampires included–can be emotionally driven.  An evolved being knows that emotions are to be mastered, not catered to.  If one stays objective and unemotional when dealing with others, one can stay focused on whatever task is at hand.  It is socially acceptable to react out of emotion when others do so first.  However, this is the sign of the flock….to be affected by lower emotion.  To be a great Leader, one must practice being bigger than the moment and being the most effective, by not reacting out of emotion in the moment of debate and discussion.  There is a time and place to process fear-based emotions, such as anger.  Conviction, confidence and passion are not the same creatures.  An effective Leader knows when to act out of their center and not trigger others’ emotional reactions.

A Leader looks at the bigger picture.  They consider all possible factors involved when dealing with others and, while they consider what is best for their most intimate connections, also consider the effects and affectations of those who are connected to those involved.  A Leader is a thinker, not a bully.  Keeping peace in the larger Vampire Community is practical.  The newly awakened are attracted to and find groups and vampire types outside of our own.  If we are cooperative and respectful to others of the larger community, we can direct the newly awakened to those kindred type which would benefit them most.  We are like a village, making sure everyone’s children finds their way back to their respective homes at the end of the day.

A Leader acknowledges that those individuals that have found their way to him or her are individuals.  This means that the individual has strengths and weaknesses inside and outside of what makes them a Vampire.  An effective Leader is as realistic as possible about their charges and empowers them in their personal growth.  True empowerment is not showing a Vampire how to snarl and bare their teeth at every imaginary threat, but how to remain centered and calm, to evaluate when the threat is actually harmless.  More often than not, when a Vampire finds their center, we realize that most threats are harmless.


Missing A Possible Opportunity In the Vampire Community

With all due respect, it seems that some Churches have little internal conflict during their meetings because the majority of the members ARE followers.  Some of us might make fun of them, but some people are entirely comfortable being “sheep”–they would much rather do the minimum of whatever the requirements are to be considered an obedient member of their flock and nothing more.  These groups work because the members find docility to be a virtuous quality.  There are a few leaders, but the majority are quite happy to remain followers.
This is not the case in the Pagan, Vampire and other “metaphysical” Communities.  Many people come into our communities quietly, respectfully…but, with time, many are not content to be followers.  Over time, members want to lead their own groups.  Sometimes, it is because they want to be of service to their fellow members of the Community–other times, it is because they want the recognition and the praise of being a good leader, elder or teacher.  As one of my Pagan mentors told me, Witchcraft and the other Magickal traditions tend to attract people with huge egos.
Huge egos are huge because they are swollen.  They are swollen, because of the emotional impacts or negative infections of life…big egos are such, because they are damaged.  Damaged egos want power, even if it is only the illusion that others are giving us their personal power.  Those individuals who want to be recognized as being in positions of power, sometimes do so to make up for how wounded they feel on the emotional level.  Spirituality and religion are very often pathways of healing.  Those who are the most vocal often tend to want to be coven leaders, teachers or authorities of some sort in their particular traditions.  Rather than focusing on personal growth or wisdom, they look for the secondary signs of someone of value or importance to others….represented as some sort of office in a group or badge/title of office.
The Vampire Community seems to overlap quite a bit with the Pagan Community.  Besides the fact that many Vampires are also involved in the Pagan and Magickal pathways, it seems that there are many in the community who fall into two other subcategories.  Even if they are actual Blood or Energy Feeders, it might be that they also embrace aspects of the Vampire Mystique to make up for existing ego flaws and issues, perhaps playing up aggressive behaviors and mannerisms associated with the Fictional Vampire–even when these aggressive behaviors might not have been part of their personality, without having heard about the Fictional Vampire.  Some members of the community are not Blood or Energy Feeders at all, but are drawn to identify with their impression of the Fictional Vampire, because they cannot relate to finding those empowered qualities within themselves.
Regardless of whether someone is an actual Feeder or not, we have a community of discordant personalities, that cluster into smaller groups, before breaking apart again, scattering and reforming into newer groups on a constant basis.  It seems that despite all the efforts that many well-meaning and helpful individuals of the GVC hold, much of our time is spent creating new groups and alliances, because of infighting, disagreement and otherwise unpleasant interactions.  Even if a group keeps the same name and banner, its member count is constantly rolling over and changing.
One of the problems that we have in our groups is a very human one.  We are not instructed on how to socialize and form cooperative communities, much less trained how to do so.  We do not get along with others, in part, because of the personality flaws that we are never taught how to deal with.  Unpleasant and discordant personalities are not taught to be the responsibility of the individual–all of our problems are, more often than not, projected onto others.
At best, we are told to control our outward behavior to some degree.  With personality issues, our emotional reactions can seem so uncontrollable that we justify acting out on them.  We incorrectly judge our emotional reaction as the fault and problem of others, so we feel justified in taking them out on the other party and demanding that they change their behavior for us.  Some of us have such extreme internal activity that we feel the impulse to express it in some way–some of this is can be in response to anxiety, depression, mania or a variety of other mental and emotional conditions and illnesses.
Many of us are not raised with whatever it means to get along with other people, much less taught how to put aside our feelings (reactions) when working with others in groups, towards common goals.  Some of us have personalities which are naturally compatible with others in general and some of us learn how to control ourselves, when we recognize the value of doing so.  But, for the most part, there are plenty of examples of people who overreact, bully and otherwise allow the EXPRESSION of their feelings and opinions to be more important than focusing on group goals or projects.
On one hand, it might be that some members of the GVC have the attitude that all adult members should know how to be cooperate, simply because we are of adult age….and therefore, must have the total capacity to do so….but, that they simply CHOOSE not to.  As a Latino, a Leo, a gay man and someone who works in retail sales….I have seen the rawest, ugliest part of humanity.  I beg to differ.  If we all have the capacity to control our emotions, that working conviction (belief)  is missing in some of us.  Without the conscious belief that we can influence our own emotions, that faculty is literally inaccessible to our conscious personality.
Telling someone to “just do it” does not work for everyone.
My guess is that some group leaders assume (hope) that all cooperative, stable members of the GVC will eventually gravitate to their particular groups.  If they wait long enough, and put in enough effort, only compatible (and Real) Vampires will eventually fill their groups–whether that is an in-person House or online group or a combination of the two.  This seems to be the unspoken working theory in some Pagan and Otherkin groups, as well.
Another possible factor is the underlying idea is that “real” Vampires have a naturally strong personality or a highly aggressive personality.  In these cases, there is nothing that needs to be addressed, when we believe that is a defining quality of a Modern Living Vampire.  This is simply the way that “real Vampires” are and nothing can be changed in them, so it is simply something to put up with.  However, because no one is addressing personality issues, this aggressive behavior is being allowed in all non-Vampire GVC members, as well.  If a “real” Vampire is just supposed to be aggressive, this same behavior is being allowed in the non-Vampire members of the GVC; which includes all misbehaving Role Players, trolls and (misbehaving) Life Stylers.
The GVC already has a strong overlap with the Metaphysical and Magickal Communities.  Many members of the GVC also practice magick, metaphysics and engage in self-development and self-growth practices. We are occultists and new agers. Emotional clearing/healing is not a foreign concept to many in the community.  All Vampires are still human–and that includes having an emotional body that comes with emotional issues.  Not all systems of emotional healing work for all people–however, if we as a Community promoted these healing systems and had practical, friendly working information in place, then it could cut down on personal wounds in the individuals of the GVC, which would cut down on the amount of emotional outbursts and other emotionally-fueled reactions in interactions with others.
If it were standard practice to encourage emotional clearing, then all members (regardless if what they actually are) might be less inclined to react out of damaged emotion and automatic triggers.  Confidence, born out of desire or passion, can be part of the Vampire Mystique.  Aggression can often mask insecurity, born out of fear, anger or other negative emotions.
If emotional clearing/healing were standardized practices, many members of the GVC might be noticeably less compulsive and combative. People with very strong emotional impulses can’t relate to the idea of behaving properly or “doing the right thing”.  With strong emotional reactions, the reasonable “adult” part of the mind is simply not in control.  Not that everyone should be given a free pass to act out whenever they want.  We should still have consequences for our personal reactions and actions.  However, since so many of us are already involved in metaphysics, magick and self-healing practices….it could be of benefit to share resources and encourage emotional clearing, healing and health for everyone.  The benefit could be less NEGATIVE emotion, with more clear thinking in our discussions and interactions.

Should We Introduce New Roles Into the Vampire Community?

Yes, I’m obviously new here.

I know that I’ve been warned not to try to invent the wheel.  In all fairness, this might have been done before, in some form or another.  But, I haven’t tried it….so maybe I need the experience of attempting it.  I might not be able to revise very much or create anything new…. but, maybe some benefit will come to me in my personal growth from trying and I’ll have something different to offer to my people at the end of the experiment.

There.  That’s my official disclaimer.

There seems to be constant discord in the Vampire Community.  Part of that might be because of the identification that some members have with the image of the aggressive Fictitious Vampire, that creature of folktales and modern literature.  The movie and television Vampire.  Some members come in to the world of their personal experience with needing to feed on blood or energy.  These new members might not have any other references for their personal behavior, by the time that they find the GVC.  For whatever their physical or energetic needs are, they take on as many characteristics of the Fictitious Vampire, simply because there is no other reference.  By the time they find the social groups and formal covens of the Community, there seems to be very little incentive for the majority of new Vampires to contribute anything useful to the community, at whole.

There is little to no reference to Modern Living Vampires as cooperative, social creatures.  The popular references that we have are that of the Vampire being independent, rebellious and subject to no one.  This is not the “community”-oriented type, but our Community is full of people who, on some level, identify with this sort of autonomy.  We have relatively few members who come in with the intention of contributing to others.  Many more members come in with the unspoken (and often subconscious) idea that they must prove themselves as superior to the weaker of the tribe.

So, here is the problem–we have members of the Vampire Community, who THINK that they need to be loners, rebels and superiors within a social structure.  Most of these people also NEED to be part of a Community, for whatever reason….sometimes, if only because we are social creatures.  Without any role or function to aspire to, many of these members are often floundering, not able to fulfill their social needs and not contributing to the health and growth of the Community, at large.

In the Pagan Community, we also have our mix of personalities, some of which can also be very abrasive.  However, what saves many individuals within the Pagan Community is that there is an emphasis on personal goals within our many spiritual traditions.  While there can still be conflict between members within the smaller or larger groups, what sometimes helps is that some of the better covens emphasis working on personal projects–whether this is becoming an adept at one of the metaphysical skills or gaining a title or ranking within a group or tradition.

I have wondered at times, if we were to emphasize personal goals in the Vampire Community, if that will help focus some members.  While it might not work for all, it could make a difference to some of our people….and eventually, every little bit of effort benefits the Community, as a whole.

As it stands, we use some titles for some of our more respected or seasoned members.  However, in my estimation, being considered a Patriarch, Matriarch or Elder of some sort is still too vague, by community definitions .  One option is to create a system–even if this is only a small dictum of reference.  Over time, others will naturally make modifications to this code of reference, each new system having its own name.  These systems can simply be a small group’s interpretation or an individual author’s statement of definitions–each with some catchy title and cool terms.  The fact that this might be a new structure (and not some ancient one) is  irrelevant, if it is adopted and used to shape community individuals in positive ways.  We can eventually have multiple systems of these functions and roles….when, used as references and guides for BEHAVIOR within the community, these can help shape focus and attention, and make for more proactive members.

Depending on the structures of individual covens and traditions of the Pagan Community, individuals might feel driven to master as much technique as they can and/or become an expert in a particular area of information.  Ego might drive behavior, but there is a prevalent encouragement towards personal development.  It could direct and guide some members of the Vampire Community if we placed an importance on becoming Educators of sorts, perhaps even outlining the various areas of information that are relevant to the members of the GVC.

Personally, I place a high value in being able to direct others to useful resources for their type, even if I am not of the same Kin.  We can talk about being Educators in the practical aspects of Sanguine Feeding practices, Energy Feeding practices or other special conditions that affect our psychological and physical health as Modern Living Vampires.

We can also talk about the other possible functions within any community group that make for smoother function in that social group.  We can emphasize the need for mediators.  Also, since most of the chaos within groups come from sensitive and hypersensitive members, we can emphasize the importance of having people who are sorts of informal Counselors, who help empower members not to take other people so seriously and point out how we can not take things so personally by building up personal strength through emotional healing.

Perhaps, if we had more formal instruction for members of the Vampire Community, where we encouraged our people to take on specific roles and trained them for those roles, we might have more productive….or at the very least, more peaceful community interactions.


Etheric Feeding, Daytime Travel, Light Trance and Other OBE fun

I tend to be the type that will over-read and not practice nearly as much metaphysical technique as I study.  This is fine, but when talking about Psychic Vampires, less activity can be a bad thing.  When I first started to study magick, I would hold off performing meditative practices because the conditions were not ideal.  When we consider that energy vampirism is more of a need than a optional activity, non-action might be harmful to the over-thinking Psychic Vampire.

The goal is to keep energetically fed as often and as safely, as needed.  When Psychic Vampires are allowed to become energetically hungry, we tend to auto-feed and/or our sense of personal ethics might be temporarily discarded.

When I am unable to feed ambiently or directly from a donor, because of physical constraints–such as my work schedule does not allow me the freedom to leave and physically go to places that are full of people, my donors and I can’t seem to coincide visits, or I otherwise physically cannot be in places that are best for feeding–I will use other methods of energy feeding.  Overthinking Psy Vampires or new metaphysical practitioners might sometimes have this idea of what astral feeding is–that it can only be effectively performed as Dreamwalking or that one must have a very vivid, intense astral projection in order for it to be a real and legitimate experience.

Energy can be moved (or magick can be performed) in a very light trance.  Changing focus and intention can happen at any time, even when we are still taking in the sensory details of the physical room that we are in.  When I am at work and realize that I need to feed, I will try a variety of things in order to take in the energy that I am lacking.  Using questions to consciously guide my attention, I will wonder/ask if there is any residual energy in the room that will be of any benefit to me.  I will “reach out” with my feeding tendrils and sweep the energy of the room with them.  I will do this with the intention of taking in any energy which will be compatible with my system.  From there, I will see how far I can reach out with my energy to sense and take in any other nearby ambient energy.

Another technique that I use is to call energy in to myself.  This borders on the technique of invocation.  I center myself in light trance and simply call for the nearest ambient energy to come to me.  I do not use any special words or prayer.  This is more of a call than anything formal.  I have the expectation and the intention that the energy I need will come to me.

I might have more time at night, when I am alone, to use slightly different techniques.  I can project my awareness in a visualization.  I do not need to have a full-on astral projection, where I have no awareness of the physical details of the room that my body is in.  Whether I choose to describe it as a light trance, etheric travel, or projecting my consciousness….the point is that I am projecting an energy body of sorts out into another level, with the intention that it is safely drawn to an energy food source.  When I find that source, the experience itself can include a visual impression that is weak or strong–along with any other sensory information, intense and vivid or with a sense that they are almost “imaginary”.  It is not the strength of the sensory details that matter as much as my overtly stated intention of what I want to find, with the intention that I will be fed.

Do not spend a lot of time visualizing/sensing/creating an astral vehicle or energy body for this process.  Simply focus on the intention that you are now in the process of encountering and consuming the energy that you need.  Return your attention fully to the senses of your physical form in the room that you are in, when you are done feeding.


An Open Letter To Metaphysicians on Why Pushing Metaphysics on Non-Metaphysicians Is A Bad Idea (GVC edition)

This letter is more specifically geared towards a particular action that still takes place in the world of the GVC.  I haven’t seen any of my friends do this particular thing, but I keep hearing about it happening to other people.

So, since I believe that seasoned Vampires are responsible for the newer of the tribe, I would like to share a few thoughts on why it is a bad idea to push Psychic Vampire ideas on those who might not want to hear it.  (And maybe share a few ideas on why it might be better to be more thoughtful about sharing all metaphysical ideas, in general.)

In discussions, debates and conversations where we are sharing ideas, personal experience and perceptions in general forums….then everything is fair game.  Psychic Vampires deal with the worlds of energy, the unseen–it is fair to include our activities under the umbrella term of Metaphysics.  We can share our opinions about our psychic vampirism, when in an open discussion about energy work.

However, as metaphysicians, energy workers and Psychic Vampires, there is a time and a place to share our opinions, experiences and perceptions.  First and foremost, let us consider our intentions in sharing information.  Between Psychic Vampires, we share our information because we have common ground and there is practical benefit in sharing our information.  Our common ground comes in our sharing the self-identification as Psychic Vampires. Our common ground comes from recognizing that we have the same energetic need, therefore the same psychic activity within similar (and compatible) world-beliefs.  We identify that we live in the same world where we can draw on energies from resources outside of our physical bodies.

When we speak to others of our kind, we are dealing with the same or similar references.  We perceive worlds of energy, along with our physical world.  We perceive that energy works in the same way.  When we speak to each other, we share under the assumption that our information will be understood and mostly accepted at face value.

When speaking in terms of general energy work, I know to keep in mind the frame of reference of my audience.  From there, I choose my intention.  If I know that I am speaking to another Psychic Vampire, the purpose of having a conversation about psychic vampirism is to share information.  If the other person I am addressing is not a Psychic Vampire, I have to take more care addressing them, to be effective with what I want to share.

The biggest problems that some people have is not being clear about their intention in speaking to their audience and how to be most effective in getting their message across in a manner which would be received in the best way possible.

If my intention is to share information about energy, in an attempt to be helpful to someone else, I need to be aware of their level of involvement in metaphysical matters.  Someone who is a meditator, works with Reiki or performs practical magick is going to be a lot more receptive to what I have to say….as opposed to someone who follows one of the Abrahamic religions and is closed off to any spiritual or metaphysical practices which are not prescribed directly by their religious affiliation.

Someone who is an Atheist, a Materialist or very practical-minded is not going to be as receptive to information involving energy exchange, astral levels, auras and thoughtforms.  The world of Energy Vampirism simply does not fit into their worldview.

Coming at it from a different angle, the target audience might relate to spiritual ideas, in theory….but, might not find them practical enough to believe in.  For example, the target audience might even participate in Reiki healing or Pranic Healing sessions, or even use meditation and visualization, for those less complicated conditions of life.  Things like stress relief, headaches, fatigue seem to be the more common issues that respond really well to energy work…but, cancer, diabetes, asthma might drive the audience to seek out more physically-oriented remedies, first.  Energy treatment might be considered a supplemental remedy to quicken healing, but only as a secondary response…if, at all.

Using metaphysical techniques is not for everyone.  Within debate and conversation, the validity level of metaphysical workings is only applicable if all parties agree on the reality of a world with spiritual/psychic levels that interact and affect each other.  If all parties do not agree on that worldview, then the discussion does not have a shared common ground.

On the same note, there has to be the shared agreement that the non-material worlds affect the material worlds to the same degree (as perceived by both parties) or the conversation is invalid, once the mutually-held agreement on where the limits lie have been surpassed.

That being said, we Psychic Vampires pretty much have free rein to say whatever we want to other Energy Feeders.  However, within the world of Vampires, there are Blood Feeders which do not necessarily adhere to any metaphysical interpretation of the world.  There are some whose interpretation of their physical (blood) vampirism is a purely materialist one.  There are some Sanguinarians who are perfectly comfortable seeing their blood need as something completely physical, without needing any metaphysical explanation for it.

When one is an atheist, a materialist, more oriented towards science and what they can experience with the physical senses or measure with modern technology–the framework and interpretation of Metaphysicians and Psychic Vampires does not work for them.

In the Pagan Community, it is a mistake to assume that we are all the same kind of magician, that we have the same worldview on the relationship between sorcery and how much it can affect physical circumstances.  We respect that we have different traditions with different imagery.  In the Otherkin Community, we know that there are Spiritual explanations for Kin and a more Psychological model as explanation.  We understand that the two schools of thought have no overlap, in their philosophies….although each individual member can have varying degrees of belief in both ideas.

When we want to convey a message, we need to be sure that the message will be received as clearly as we can make it understood.  Take the time to understand the framework of reference that the intended audience works with.  Not all messages will be received in the same vein that we intend them.

Don’t set yourself up as an educator to someone who will not accept the information in a way that is useful to THEM.  Information that falls on deaf ears just creates resistance to accepting the information at a later date–and there is now a barrier between you and your intended audience.  You have become an ineffectual messenger, once there is resistance to you.  If the information is important, spend time broaching and exploring their worldview.  Is it possible to present logical information which will make the ground fertile to at least understand your metaphysical view, later on?


Will All Of The Shy Vampires In The Room Please Raise Your Hands?

….first of all, the most important question is…Are there any shy Vampires?  Do those creatures even exist?

Some people have this perception that there is a standard Vampire Personality; and that this personality comes with an aggressive, assertive or otherwise strong attitude.  In short, there can be no such thing as a “shy Vampire”.  Vampires are not quiet, unsure of themselves, shy, insecure or soft-spoken.


Even if someone were to argue that aggressiveness is a standard part of the Vampire Personality, in my time in the GVC, I’ve met the variety of personality types.  I’ve met Sangs, Psys and Dual Feeders who run the range of emotional variety.  I’ve met well-spoken and well-established members who deal with anxiety, panic attacks and various disorders of the mind and personality.  These are members who are definitely Sangs and Psys, who benefit from feeding on blood or energy.  Just as in Nature, there are the variety of personality types, within the same species.

When one is born a human with the physical need to ingest blood or the energetic need to take in external energy, there is still whatever genetic and environmental factors that are specific to that modern vampire’s birth-family and social unit…which will shape his/her personality, including the social, mental and emotional disorders.

Blood and Energy Feeders can still have the same variety of personality that all other types of humans can have.  We are born with anxiety.  Some of us are more introverted than others.  Hunger and lack thereof might affect our levels of assertiveness.  So, my working conclusion is that….

There are Shy Vampires.

Keeping that in mind, I’ve heard a common theme repeat itself again, recently.  In some of my groups, there are people who actively try to engage others in conversation by posting new topics in the attempt to make new threads.  This is wonderful, in and of itself.  What becomes problematic is when there is a complaint that there is little to no conversation going on, in an attempt to prod others to engage.  (I, myself, have been guilty of this in the past.)

However, I do remember even further back, when I was very reluctant to speak up.  I was unsure of myself, my level of intelligence and my communication skills.  I have had varying intensities of social anxiety (and “shyness”…?).  At my most delicate, someone trying to prod, goad, incite, shame or encourage me would cause me to shut down even further….or simply leave the group.  As far as I can tell, I’ve been an energy feeder since I was born….that made me a Shy Vampire.

So, here’s my question–is it worth it to try a different approach with Shy Vampires?  If the answer is no….which is completely fine, based on what kind of group someone wishes to have….then, what will remain in a group will be the more vocal, the more assertive, the more extroverted and the more chatty of the members.  This is completely fine, but just because someone is more vocal, there is no guarantee on what else the particular vampire has to offer.

It’s a lottery.  Within any group of the GVC, we have our mix of personalities and intelligence levels.  Is the point of a group to cultivate the best thinkers and speakers to create the most interesting conversations and interactions?  Are we generating pools and databases of information and inspiration?

Or is there an element of service?  Is the group there to help members blossom, grow, heal and expand beyond their current boundaries?  Would the ideal environment contain elements of all factors or be geared towards one side or the other?

It might be more honest to say that we have our mix of personages.  We have our leaders AND our nut cases in our more vocal members.  With them, we know what we get because they express themselves.  There is little to no guesswork.  With each Shy Vampire, we do not know what we are getting until the flower breaks ground and eventually blossoms.

It is completely true that some of the quieter members might not be true Modern Living Vampires.  Some of them might very well be delusional–or could be true MLV, BUT with abrasive or unpleasant personalities.  On the other hand, there might be very intelligent, kind or wonderful Vampires….that simply need a bit of help overcoming whatever personality issue that keeps them from communicating openly and easily.  There might also be other Vampires, who might not be able to contribute in any way or to any great extent….in this case, it is a matter of service to reach out to them, in spite of their shyness, to make sure that they have what they need to function as a Modern Vampire in today’s world which does not make resources easily accessible to their special needs.

How do we reach out to those Shy Vampires in our Community?  How do we make sure that those who are too timid to ask for help, get what they need?  Or do we let Nature weed them out?  Is it worth it to get that involved with the meek and timid?

Depending on specific scenario, not attending to uninformed Blood Feeders leaves physically ill Vampires.  They might get to a place where they are so irrational with hunger that they act out in dangerous or embarrassing ways that damage themselves, their victims and the community at large.  Not attending to uninformed Energy Feeders leads to physically ill or emotionally unstable Vampires.  These will get to a place where they are creating chaos–which could result in problems between friends and family, and extend into the physical from there.

Shy Vampires are lost in their anonymity.  General calls to “speak up” do not work.  At first thought, the only solution I can come up with is to create a more intimate sort of outreach.  In special groups, we can offer outreach officers who communicate directly almost like informal social workers–not just a quick announcement to “let me know if you need anything”, but something way more direct and explicit.

“Do you know how to feed for your type?”  Good.  “Do you have trouble speaking up in groups or communicating your thoughts and needs?”  Okay….go to this resource.  Feel free to speak to me about something that you cannot say in group.  Until you can speak up, I will help speak for you.