Psychic Vampirism As Description Of Conditions Vs. Fictional Vampirism As Delusional Thinking

 

I sometimes wonder if my life would have been easier if I had been born to parents who had similar philosophies and beliefs. My metaphysical ideas and convictions about reality make sense to me–more so, because I’ve questioned their validity and practicality in my life. Whichever metaphors and paradigms I use, I do so because they make my life easier to understand and navigate. Whichever concepts that do not serve me on a practical basis eventually get weeded out and changed for other ways of perceiving and working with the world.  I’ve built up my framework of reference over time.

And this is all on a mental level.

In the terms of the Modern Vampire Community (Subculture), I think of myself as a Psychic Vampire or a Vampire, when I refer to the particular concepts and details that I understand as belonging to either “label.” This reference comes up in conversation with others or when I am mentally recalling concepts such as energy feeding…or any other topics which are directly connected to energy health or work.

When those of us come to the GVC from or through the metaphysical communities, we come in with a particular perception, a particular way of viewing things.  We often recognized pre-existent conditions and behaviors (that relate to energy) before we even hear of the term “Psychic Vampire.” We might have noticed the particular conditions of low personal energy, automatic feeding and such as individual factors….but, come to identify as modern Psychic Vampires, once we find the subculture of people who unite under this general label–because we have similar energy structures, conditions and behaviors. We have these conditions in mind and unite because we have them in common.  Ideally speaking, what we are doing is clarifying what are our general behaviors and, in turn, suggesting more productive activities.

In metaphysical terms, we are not TRYING to be Psychic Vampires. We notice similar or exact behaviors and are NOTICING that we are generally the same.  We gather under a community that, for particular reasons, call our kind “Psychic Vampires,” at this time.

In our terms, we acknowledge that any being can move energy and utilize energy for specifically intended purposes. However, “Psychic Vampire” describes that type of energetic human which has the specific need to feed on the vital energies of other humans. We derive benefits from doing so, benefits that do not come from feeding on other types of spiritual/psychic energy. We experience detriment when we fail to do so.

Any human being can and does move spiritual and psychic energy. We use the term “psychic vampire” to describe a being that incarnates with the need and drive to do so, with built-in impetus to perform this activity.

From my time in the Modern Vampire Community, I have come across many people who appear to be role-playing because of their request to be turned into Vampires–as they assume Vampires to be. However, these people who request to be transformed are not role-playing in the sense that they know that they are lying, kidding or playing a part. For the most part, while they are unrealistic in their expectations of what Modern Vampires are, they are sincere in their desire to be transformed into the creature that they want to be transformed into, that they HOPE is real.

Many (if not most) Psychic Vampires are familiar with metaphysical and magickal laws. As mages, psychics and occultists–many Psychic Vampires strive to be as realistic as possible with what we can do in this world. In the Pagan/Magickal/Energy Worker communities, we do have our unrealistic members who expect manifestations to occur in ways which defy physical laws of reality….but, these people are not counted among the serious students of metaphysics and the occult teachings.

When we perform magick and other energy workings, we experiment and take note of how we ACTUALLY affect reality on the physical, energetic and objective levels. Sometimes, we need to stretch beyond the current personal limitations of our mental and emotional convictions in order to manifest something that we previously DID NOT BELIEVE IN. However, we understand that we incarnated into a manifest reality with particular physical laws. Even if we hear about yogis and saints which seem to bend and break the laws of Nature, we are realistic about how much time we can practically spend in meditation and practice to perform our own versions of “miracles.” If we accept that we can’t spend three years meditating in a cave, we do not expect to physically transform matter in unrealistic ways.

From my time spent in the Modern Vampire Community, I’ve come across many people who have requested to be transformed into “real vampires.” These people seem to be convinced that the fictional vampires of television, movies and literature are what exist. Being as I’ve never run across any of these super-powered mythical creatures, I have to say that….for all practical intents and purposes….they do not exist.

In my combined time in the Pagan/Magickal Communities, the Energy Workers/Healers Communities and the Vampire Communities….what phenomena that can be considered paranormal or metaphysical has impressed me, but falls far short of the special effects of vampire stories and movies. Our paranormal/magickal effects fall within the high range of skill of any well-trained psychic, magician or manifestor.

That is what we are concerned with–practical manifestations that make one’s human life better or more enjoyable in some way. As Psychic Vampires, we help each other work with energy to become healthy, highly functional beings. We do not encourage wasted effort or expenditures of energy which do not result in some very real payoff.

Those people who petition to be transformed into vampires are often not concerned with making real-life change. Most of the people who have asked me to turn them are interested in a very quick, VERY EASY solution to whatever they think being a (fictional, super-powered) vampire will get them. I’ve offered to teach them magick or metaphysical technique. Some of these people initially took me up on my offer, but every one of them soon dropped the lessons–after every one of them indicated that the metaphysical lessons were taking too long and not giving real-world results quickly enough. For the most part, more people were not interested in learning magick, psionics or metaphysics. They were insistent that they wanted to be “turned” into vampires.

I’ve tried to determine WHY the “aspiring vampire” wanted to be changed into their fictional version of the vampire. With every intention of being as helpful as I could, I felt like I had a very limited amount of time to give the aspirant the best piece of advice before they cut me off, because my perception of help was not what they had in mind. Although it is not my responsibility to do anything for anyone, much less give them something practical when they outright reject it….I have come to the working conclusion that that is the response that is the most natural for me.

The unrealistic fall in love with fantasies of being transformed into otherworldly, ultrapowerful creatures with the idea that once they are transformed, they will be able to make very real-world changes in their own lives. It is unreasonable and illogical thinking. I have to make my most intuitive guesses about the reasons that the aspirants want to be transformed, since I get very little feedback from them, even when asked directly.

Again, as an energy healer, my personal intention is that I want to be as helpful as possible. Even if I only have a small window of opportunity to give a concise and quick bit of feedback, this scenario happens often enough that I find value in refining my response for the next “vampire aspirant” that finds me.

As a metaphysician, I have to assume that if the aspirant were serious about empowering themselves and finding practical solutions, they would be more willing to take me up on my metaphysical advice.  However, because almost everyone who asks does not follow through on my instructions or “alternatives” to being turned into an instantly super-powered being….my working conclusion is that these people are not actually interested in solving or resolving any personal situations.

Chasing after solutions which lie outside the current realm of possibility can serve to stretch one beyond one’s current boundaries and limitations.  This is the purpose of reaching beyond what is currently real–to force one’s self to evolve and discover untapped personal resources.  If an aspirant became strengthened or personally transformed in their pursuit of personal power, then the metaphor of the Fictional/Mythological Vampire was a useful one.  If nothing but wasted effort and frustration came out of asking multiple people (of the Modern Vampire Community) to be turned or to point one in the direction of “real vampires,” then the subconscious intention of the aspirant might be to keep frozen in place, to allow the problematic life-situations to stay in their position, and to actually keep experiencing any negativity or negative effects that those original life-situations represented or justified.

When viewed through the eyes of the metaphysically-oriented Vampire, the bottom line of the Modern Vampire Community is that, at the core, we are here to offer support and information, and to make life easier for all of us.  The majority of those that ask to be turned are at a level of understanding which is mainly belief in the fantasy of what Vampires are.  The emotional attachment to a quick solution (at surface level awareness) and the deeper emotional identification with their problems which prompt their fantasy of wanting to be turned are way more real to them than the interest in wanting to investigate the truth of what Modern Vampires really are.  The time and effort spent in arguing with these “aspirants” is useless–they are not in the mindset to be “educated” when their emotional investment is so high in their fantasy.  Focusing on their personal issues is at the same time, much more practical because it helps them face their real issues and is a deterrent from them asking for the impossible.

“Why do you want to be a Vampire?” is a lot more useful than focusing on why they can’t be.

 

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Mental-Level Experience: How Real is Real?

In the Vampire Community, we are constantly having a back and forth on who is a “real vampire” or arguing about who’s experience is “real.”  The reasons for this are varied.  Without trying to create a new label for myself–although I can’t promise I won’t do that later–my reasoning is that I want to organize practical information for the various feeding types, so that basic health needs are met.  That is my main agenda.

The more serious metaphysical students analyze and dissect information for purely practical purposes.  Even though it might seem odd to use the word “practical” when speaking about metaphysics, we use this term to cover the techniques and information which can be applied to our personal lives to create some sort of discernable change or effect.  The serious metaphysical students and healers can see the different types of practices that the various sorts of members of the Vampire Community have, without finding one type or the other as superior or inferior.  Division and dissection are used to analyze what the individual needs, before targeting the specific information that can best serve them.

Within the realm of the Psychic Vampire, we work with the unseen world of psychic, spiritual, astral, vital energy.  We discern the activity on this level with internal, non-physical senses.  From outside of our subgroup, it is easy to see why skeptics, materialists and non-metaphysical thinkers throw us into the same category as the Role Players and the deluded.  We have so many self-proclaimed Psychic Vampires that run the range of expression from detailing astral experiences in long, boring retellings to the melodramatic gesture-filled physical demonstrations of ritual feeding.

There are self-proclaimed Psychic Vampires who speak of their alleged non-physical activities to audiences who do not have the same common reference points of reality.  Talking about psychic energy, energy bodies, astral planes and such to people who simply do not accept these concepts as valid or real in their world does not create a bond from information sharing.  It simply cements in how crazy we are, as a group.  Sharing is only helpful if the audience is receptive and can accept the reference points as valid to the person who is sharing their information.

Here’s my personal kicker–even though I have a metaphysical background and I work with these concepts, I find that I don’t necessarily accept all reports and accounts as “real.”  During the process of writing my last article on Role Players, I had to question why I don’t necessarily (internally) validate absolutely everyone’s accounts of their energy activity.  I had to explore which framework I had come to build, based on my own internal journey of working with my perceptions.  And I had to question why my framework of reference is still useful for me–AND how much value there is in sharing the framework that I had come to build as my process for evaluating what is valid in my perception of the world.

Within my time in the Magickal/Pagan Community, I have come across many people who invest a lot of emotion or invest self-identity in their “astral” experiences.  These people will share their recollections with others–often with the underlying need to provoke some sort of huge reaction or revelation on the part of the listening audience.  They want the listening audience to have some profound reaction about the speaker’s “specialness.”

Taking my own experience as my reference point, I have had mental experiences which could be considered “astral” or “imaginary”.  Some of these mental experiences started off as visualizations, meditations or guided healing journeys.  Some were spontaneous or happened in dreams.

My personal interpretation is that imagery and revelations that come up in these mental/astral storylines can be as useful or useless as dreams.  The relative truths in these scenarios can be reflective of old or current thought processes and beliefs–sometimes erroneous or disempowering convictions.  Other times, the hidden messages in these mental adventures can reflect the hidden strengths and potentials that are universal to all beings–not something only special to a few.  I would not claim that I was a humble being, exactly….however, I have learned that everyone else has potential access to the potential strengths that lie within all of humanity.  In this way, I have come to believe that people who are in need of proving or validating in some way that they are Special (more valuable) are actually hiding insecurities and need validation from their fellow humans.

To the metaphysical student, there is no reason to prove that any spirit or human is more Special (and therefore more valuable) than any other being.  In metaphysical thought, every being is a direct reflection of the Wholeness of Spirit.  Every spirit has access to all the blessings of The Divine, so no one needs to earn anything outside of our Divine Birthright, which is all of the blessings of Spirit.  There is nothing to earn, because it is all already ours.

The need to be Special is an erroneous thought-process of the limited human ego.  It is the inability to see access that we have access to Cosmic Consciousness, at all times, regardless of circumstance. The need to be Special comes from the idea that the individual is not already One with Spirit and already “Special” to Spirit.  The bruised or damaged ego believes that they are inferior or undeserving in some way.  To counterbalance this conviction, the mind spins out extravagant storylines on the mental level–in which one is “more special” than others by getting special audiences with or treatment by the gods; is part of a special bloodline; has super powers (either on the mental or astral realm only, OR locked-up potential that cannot be accessed in the physical plane); or just some sort of interesting storyline of events that is played out in the imagination.  These “special” details could either be kept to one’s self….but, more often than not, will be shared with others.

When Magicians and Metaphysicians perform acts of magick or move non-physical energy, in many cases, we want some sort of effects on a practical level.  There are schools of thought that dictate that some acts of magick are done only (or primarily) for spiritual evolution….but, even in that case, some of the guideposts for spiritual evolution are that the emotional body and all of its negative reactions are calmed and cleared.  When we are more peaceful, we are able to have more of what we consider “spiritual experiences.”  On the practical level, Psychic Vampires do what we do because we find better health in our physical bodies, calmer emotional bodies, vitality and well-being that we cannot find through other methods of energy work or otherwise.  We feed on particular energies because we perceive corresponding benefits on the emotional and physical planes.

When we perform magick, we need to see results in the physical world.  In some cases, we keep performing magick even if we only have emotional payoffs.  An emotional level benefit is well worth the effort, in this world.  Astral work, mental journeys, meditations and visualization are only worth it if there is some sort of positive effect from these workings that we experience in the emotional or physical dimensions.  To the metaphysical practitioner, there is a correspondence of sorts because we can link the emotional shift or physical manifestation to these mental/psychic activities…time and time, again.

When there is mental activity with no corresponding activity in the emotional or physical dimension, magicians consider that a sort of failure in intention, targeted focus or ideal goals.  Self-proclaimed Psychic Vampires who have supposed astral or mental level activity without the same corresponding physical/emotional benefits that other Psychic Vampires reap from feeding….are not having actual Psychic Vampire experiences.  In metaphysical terms, what we call “deluded” is simply Mental Level activity with no corresponding activity or benefits in the emotional or physical dimensions–but, with the claim that those mental level activities mean something in relation to other levels.  An exaggeration of the benefits to the physical or emotional bodies relative to the amount of Mental Level activity is also seen as delusional.  What we might think of as “crazy” is a disproportionate judgement of value, as opposed to clear discernment of benefits proportional to mental efforts.

This is not to say that all metaphysicians should entertain all first-hand accounts of other’s mental experiences as valid or valuable.  Metaphysicians work with discernment.  We analyze to see how to use information in a better or useful way, before we pass it along to others.  But rather, a better understanding of why some people are harder to listen to will at least defuse the discomfort that we feel when given a drawn-out or seemingly meaningless report of mental/astral activities.

Along the lines of “seemingly meaningless,” perhaps it would be more accurate to say that some people’s accounts of their mental activities are not practical.  Given, some astral journeys can at least be entertaining, relieving some stress.  In that sense, the astral journeys were helpful….if not to relieve some long-term problem, some reprieve was given.  There was some temporary relief to the emotional body.  Furthermore, to repeat the story might sometimes serve as some light entertainment to the receptive audience–best case scenario, there might be a vague inspiration for the recipient to have their own positive astral journey.  Worst case scenario is that the receptive audience is bogged down by the details, waiting for a punch line or a revelation, and there is none.  It’s a gamble whether one will be inspired or bored.

A long meditation with no emotional transformation or manifestation in the physical world is roughly equivalent to performing regular acts of magick with no effects (healing) in either the emotional or physical levels. Even performing magickal rituals or energy healings for spiritual awakening mainly involve emotional clearing of some sort….arguably, the biggest thing distracting us from spiritual evolving is our negative emotional activities.  There are such things as useless or impractical energy work, magick and astral activity–depending on the level of practicality that we are intending and how much we wish to effect the emotional and physical worlds.  The more serious of the metaphysical students in the Vampire Community focus on the those activities which produce the greatest demonstrations of health in the emotional and physical bodies.

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Role Players In The Vampire Community–My Reaction To “A Brief Interlude: Why It Might Be Time to Abandon the Masquerade”

 

As I started reading A Brief Interlude  (https://arcaneramblings.wordpress.com/2017/07/08/a-brief-interlude-why-it-might-be-time-to-abandon-the-masquerade/), it suddenly occurred to me that so many of us in the Vampire Community have our opinions….and that we’re very loud about them.  For those of us who are vocal, we each speak as if our observations or perceptions are the correct ones–or at least, valid enough to be given serious consideration by the masses that we share them with.

Do all of our opinions on each matter hold the same weight? Yes, no and maybe. I think that we should consider how the individual is ACTUALLY interacting with and in the Vampire Community.

Let’s be honest. How much weight does my word hold? I almost exclusively interact online. I have my little blog page. I have and participate in a handful of online groups. I have my friends and colleagues in the community. If I have an opinion, insight or vote in any matter which involves or concerns other members of the Vampire Community….how much influence do I REALLY have?

Which lines do I stand behind?

Do I have the right to vote on anything involving Houses that I never visit, public events that I never attend, nightclubs that I never go to or ANYTHING concerning other members of the Vampire Community that I will never interact with on a face-to-face basis?

Well….

It seems that we’re all constantly putting in our two cents about policy. So, if everyone else is doing it…so will I.  Even if I will never interact with the majority of the members of the GVC, maybe my offering my observations on the activities of our various aspects of the Community might be helpful to some of those that hear it.  Even when it might be seen as a negative opinion about keeping divisions between particular types of members.

Why do some of us want to make the distinction between Role Players and Modern Living Vampires, anyway? Why don’t we just hang out in the same clubs, go to the same events and just stop making separation between any of us in the Vampire Community?

Practical reasons.

Psychic Vampires….just like energy workers, magicians and psychics….want to discern between actual non-physical events and perceptions and that which WE would consider purely “imaginary”. At base level, we are already working with a handicap–we need to be even more cautious with the tools with which we observe and measure our non-physical experiences, because they are fallible and easy to misuse, if we do not take extra care in our collection of data. Psychic Vampires are noting past personal experiences, current experiences and even conducting our experiments with energy and psychic phenomena. What we consider “purely imaginary” are those activities which are completely occurring ONLY on the mental level, without affecting any or having corresponding activity on the physical/etheric levels.

True Psychic Vampires notice the correspondences between internally/subjectively/psychically perceived events and externally/objectively perceived phenomena.  We see how one world affects the other.  And we have enough personal justification to keep observing the world, this way.

We wish to share information with others who are having similar experiences and similar approaches in handling their personal observations….that is, with other Psychic Vampires and those who perceive reality in similar ways. There is something to be said for someone more experienced sharing their personal experience and history. Not that all advice will apply or be taken to heart…but, having someone share their actual psychic experience, as accurately depicted as possible, adds to one’s database of what is possible within their own experience.

Whether we are speaking of ourselves as a particular type of human or in terms of having an experience potential to all of humanity–when we speak of non-imaginary events, we are sharing information which could potentially be applicable to all others. When someone does not know or understand the distinction between the types of non-physical events AND they are speaking of imaginary events (mental level-only) as if they actually affected physical, etheric or psychic levels….when they did not….this information is misleading and adds false information to the database.

Role Players, by definition, deal with a fantasy or exaggerated accounts of possible events. They are not concerned with actual depictions  of personal experience or accurate information regarding personal history. Role Players deal with a storyline, not anything that could be used in practical ways or anything that could be applied to someone’s life.

Given, there can be benefits to role playing. It can be entertaining. It can lead to stress relief or lead to elevated emotional states, which can later be transferred to real life or non-role play scenarios. However, role playing (especially, vampire role playing) is not always appropriate for all venues. Talking about being a 300-year-old immortal might be not be acceptable in Sunday Catholic mass services. Sharing how one supposedly bit into the neck of local callgirls might not be appropriate conversation over Thanksgiving turkey. There is a time and a place for all things.

Within the chatrooms of the Psychic Vampires, we exchange information that is relevant to those of us who perceive these psychic/energetic conditions which some of us are born with. The majority of us who are serious about exploring the psychic and astral realities of our conditions are more than happy to share whatever information we have. In addition, for those of us serious metaphysical students, we wish to collect and analyze information from others, as well.  Role Players, by definition, do not deal with careful observation, perception and analysis.  They deal with fictional storytelling.  Their input into our collective database adds incorrect data, which is useless or misleading to those of us who want to work with our psychic perception and experiences in practical ways.

I often hear that our current version of the Modern Vampire Community has some roots in the Role Playing Vampire Scene–that it was through the Role Playing/Gaming scene that Real Modern Vampires met each other and divulged their real vampiric practices.  There are references to the Role Playing/Gaming scene and  Goth clubs as being integral to the formation of what we know as the modern Vampire subculture.  Part of the support for this idea is that today, both the Role Playing scene and the Goth scene also double as gateways for the GVC, because of the overlap of members involved in all of the communities.

As far as networking goes, some of us more information-oriented members of the Community have much less interest (or at least, less focus) in the events scene.  Clubs, balls and other social venues are great outlets to meet donors–both sang and psy, alike.  However, for purposes of keeping our databases as close to accurate as we possibly can, we need to keep out those who are not having actual vampiric experiences  This includes the need to feed and the benefits that come from that feeding.  Role Players know that they are not actual sang or psychic feeders.

We no longer rely on Gaming and Club scenes as the only places to gather.  The world has changed.  We can respect the roles that the various venues have played in our history–but, with the internet, we connect and interact in completely different ways.

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Researching Psychic Vampires: Sharing Perceptions, Observations and Best Guesses

I recently opened up an informal research and study group.  My intention is to collect information from my fellow Psychic Vampires and Energy Feeders.  It’s not so much that I have the intention of collecting numbers, exactly….although, if something interesting came up in terms of statistics, then of course, I’ll share that.

My approach is going to be more creative and inspired than that.  I might discover general trends, something that needs repeating.  But, with so much standard information available on energy vampirism…I wonder if maybe there was room to look for the details that some of us might be missing.  Maybe the more creative of us, magicians or artists, experiment with imagery or technique.  Maybe, there is an insight from someone who meditates…something that might not be so obvious to those of us who do not have so much time for structured reflection and contemplation.

I was very open about my intentions for starting my informal research group.  I have every intention of giving back to the community (subculture) that offered me guidance and support.  I plan to share whichever gems I discover, whichever insights other psychic feeders generously share with me.  Even though we are just starting on this new project, I am already inspired by all of the possibility.

This reminds me of when I used to lead guided meditations…when I helped run metaphysical workshops.  Part of the rewards of teaching, passing along the information that we’ve learned, is that it reinforces the memory of what we have learned and it gives us the opportunity to look at the same information yet another time–possibly to see a different angle or understand the same information at a deeper level.

There is no way to verify that everyone I come across will be an actual Modern Psychic Vampire, as I understand what such a creature is.  And there is no way for me to verify that absolutely everyone understands and interprets their experience in the same way that I might.  And that is wonderful.  I know that I will cross paths with people who are having very real psychic and energetic experiences that are comparable, if not similar, to mine.  And then, there will be people who are having experiences which, while still internal and subjective, are more “imaginary” because they are limited to the mental level.  Even if someone is having a purely mental-level experience, hopefully some of our information can be modified to be used on that level for their self-healing and growth.

My interpretation is that Psychic Vampires are dealing with and having experiences that are to the extreme of what is possible (and happening to some degree) within the realm of all humans.  We are just experiencing the same phenomenon on energetic, psychic and spiritual levels to degrees higher than our non-vampiric human counterparts.  (Or maybe, it might be that we are just more conscious of the same processes.)  Whatever we come to understand and know can be applied on smaller levels to any and all non-vampiric human experience.  We can offer insight about human’s psychic, etheric and spiritual experiences because we are immersed and forced to become more active members on these levels.  The more that we learn and unravel, the more that we can offer to the non-vampires around us.

As I seek to explore the generalities of our kind AND the special insights specific to some of us, I will grow as a psychic and spiritual being.  It is my hope that we grow together as we share and explore these wisdoms.

We can objectively measure how the human race has evolved on physical and mental levels.  If I can use my personal evolution as any indication of what is possible for others in a general way, my working hypothesis is that Psychic Vampires have evolved over time, as well….and that we keep evolving, as we put the conscious effort into it.  Hopefully, in our research project, we not only come to a more intimate understanding of what we are up to this point, but also consciously shape what it is that we want to become.

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Why I Think It’s A Good Idea For Me To Keep Talking About Vampire Types–

 

[Original title: Why I Think It’s A Good Idea For Me To Keep Talking About Vampire Types, Even Though It Seems To Irritate Some of My Colleagues]

[…but the entire title wouldn’t fit on the t-shirt.]

In the time that I’ve been actively participating in the Vampire Subculture, I’ve seen strong reaction from members that have a problem with using vampire type subcategories. While I have my reasons why I think it is a good idea to be specific about particular subdivisions, I have to make some assumptions about why others have a problem with breaking down Modern Vampires into subcategories.

One argument that some members have for not using subcategories (and for leaving all Modern Vampires to be considered as “Vampires,” without any subdivisions) is that it supposedly creates a division in the community. My disagreement with this concept is that divisiveness is a personality technique that many people use anyway–even if the rest of us stick to describing everything and everyone in the most general, unifying terms possible. These divisive personalities will find some other reason to break up the subculture into camps and sides, for some other reasons, if they really want to.

I have an analytical approach to looking at other peoples’ experiences. Personally, I want to understand and acknowledge the individual’s experience, including their personal interpretation and understanding of that experience. I can perceive the different aspects that make up a person’s reality and honor them, without using the excuse of differences as a reason to distance myself from them. The details of a person’s life are the tones and shades of the colors in the tapestry of their reality. Some of us can enjoy the differences between people, and not use those differences as an excuse to judge, villanize or distance ourselves from those that are different.

I can look at the particular details of someone else’s story, still have my own preferences, AND still not judge them for their interpretation and perceptions. If I have a personal dislike for any individual’s experience, it is because they are doing something which I find negative. I might not agree with a particular activity, or it is not to my taste.  It is not simply because I need to be in opposition to anyone else.

Let us be honest about our individual experience under the collective term of Modern Vampirism–accepting at face value that everyone who calls themselves a “vampire” is a “vampire” is only useful for the party and role player scene. We need to use subcategories to focus on meeting needs for the subgroups that our needs naturally put us into.  Some of us focus on the information network that we’ve built–sharing articles on research and ongoing theories, as well as the social web necessary for personal support.  There are two very distinct aspects to the Vampire subculture–the information network and the social events scene.

Obviously, sang feeders need to know very technical aspects of sang feeding for practical reasons. In the realm of energy feeding, the reasons for needing to know whether one really has a need for feeding on an energetic level are a little more complicated. Let us define our terms and clarify what is energy vampirism–

On spiritual, psychic and astral levels–humans take and exchange energy all the time. This is a normal non-physical experience. In some metaphysical schools, we use the term “energy vampire” to describe those people who need a higher amount of energy than normal; who fare better by feeding directly from the energy of fellow human’s energy systems; AND who often have energy systems that automatically feed from the energy systems of those around them, when they are in need of that energy.

There are some schools of metaphysics which view the condition of vampirism as a sort of illness, a defect in the energy system. In this context, the concept of “temporary vampirism” is something that can be cured. The need for an auric system to automatically drain those around themselves would indicate a temporary condition which could be fixed. However, if after repeated attempts at curing energy vampirism does not take care of the condition, one has to make room for the possibility that the Energy Vampire (or Psychic Vampire) is just simply another type of human on the spiritual spectrum.

To the advanced practitioner of metaphysics, we make room for the idea that while we can definitely (and should) make use of the practical information and spiritually-theoretical information that we have–as humans, it is arrogant to assume that if we do not understand something completely or cannot yet measure it, it surely must not exist. Not that we should also take everything at face value, but that some things in life are on a sliding scale….and are valuable to work with on a conceptual level….in some cases….for some people.

There are some members of the Vampire Community who assume that there are non-Vampiric humans and “Vampires”.  To lump all “Vampires” into the same category with all of the same needs is just as unhelpful as lumping non-Vampires into the same category and ignoring that their needs might vary, depending on their individual history and current physical and psychological makeup.

If we see energy feeding as an activity in all humans, on the spiritual level–we can use another psychic activity as an analogy.  While any human can see clairvoyantly, if they have the conviction that they are able to do so and are able to remove those mental and emotional obstacles which are contrary to their success in seeing–there are humans who consider themselves Clairvoyants because this talent seemed to be inherently accessible without having practiced it before any of their seemingly SPONTANEOUS clairvoyant experiences. The same goes for those people who consider themselves “natural Witches”, healers or anything else which falls within the realm of the supernatural, psychic, magickal or energetic phenomena that is experienced by humans. In metaphysical teachings, everything is a choice on higher levels of consciousness….but, relative to how we describe “choice,” “conscious choice,” and “karmic obligation”; some conditions of physical life seem to be unchangeable while we are still in our physical lifetime.

There are some people who are born into this reality with the predisposition to feed energetically on their fellow humans. There is still a discrepancy in the description of “vampires” beyond this basic qualifying condition–which is open for debate in other venues–but for now….I will focus on the trait of “necessary feeding,” as understood in metaphysical terms.

One of the biggest arguments is whether we should categorize Modern Vampires under subgroups. What seems to be one of the most common counter-arguments is that it creates a divisiveness in the subculture. Again, my response to that is that it is possible for me to know everything about another person that is different from myself, but to respect those differences and still find the common ground between us. I am not that extraordinary, so this indicates that this is a possible capacity for response in most of my fellow humans. Also, I’ve found others who are part of my same “groups” (racial, sexual orientation, gender…) that still go out of their way to focus on the differences between us and create that sense of separation because of those differences–this is a technique of a particular personality type.

To be fair, I am the type that is more concerned with the needs of the individual that is interacting with me in the moment.  I am not so much concerned with the needs of presenting a unified front as a gathering of “Vampires.,” if that means completely sacrificing the needs of the individual in the moment of communication.  My personal interpretation of myself as a “Modern Vampire” is that I have been drawn to this umbrella group and will function in that group in a way that is honoring my interpretation of what a Modern Vampire is….or should be. With the assumption that there are many interpretations, just as there are many justifications, for being a participating member of this subculture….I will be completely clear about my personal perspective in being part of this community.

Regardless of what brought me to the community, I find myself in it, at this moment. The Modern version of our global community might have started with a particular vision, but we find ourselves in this current version with the mix of personalities, groups and agendas as it currently stands. Some of us draw on a history or mythos older than our modern subculture. We have our mix of serious scholars and historians, philosophers, thinking members….and our lifestylers, role players and plain-out deluded. There are some of us who interpret and re-interpret Modern Vampirism with little or no reference to the historical, fictional or traditional Vampire.

According to the definitions of some members of the GVC, I might not be a Vampire/Modern Vampire, at all. This is actually okay, with me. I did not come into the community learning about what a Vampire/Modern Vampire was and trying to fit myself into the description. I came in through the metaphysical hallway, putting together an understanding of my experience, and coming into the GVC–being told that there were others like me…Energy Feeders…gathering under the umbrella name of Psychic Vampires or Vampires.

I came in from my experience as an energy worker. In my paradigm, we want to know as much as information as we can, so that we can specifically target issues and offer specific remedies. In magick, we learn about specific correspondences in order to work with energies which correspond to specific manifestations. While it is completely legitimate to pray to Jesus and use Reiki….for some of us, it makes more sense to use blue prana to cool down pain and Venus on a Friday to manifest a more heart-oriented love relationship. Specifics matter for purposes of communication, focus and need.  We work with recipes, dealing with specific ingredients and how they interact with each other.

 

 

Bringing this back to our original topic of Vampirism, we use specific types of qualifiers when we want to share specific details about feeding or to discuss issues specific to that particular type of feeder. Regardless of some opinions, everyone who gravitates to the Vampire Subculture might not all be the same kind of spiritual/energetic/psychic creature.

From the viewpoint of the metaphysician, someone who needs to energetically feed (an Energy Vampire) and someone who does not, relies on different energy structures. When viewed clairvoyantly, psychically or through other means….not everyone has the same psychic structure. Whether considering the energy bodies, the chakra system, the meridian system or any other non-physical spiritual/psychic system…the energy system of an Energy Vampire or Psychic Vampire will have some issue or be structured very differently than that of someone who is not an Energy Vampire.

In terms of energy structures and healing issues, we are born into this world with different focuses, issues that need to be healed, disorders and so on. One person might be born with a throat chakra issue or a karmic need to learn to be more outspoken–this person will have more energy directed to and moving through their throat chakra until the issue is resolved. Another person could come in to this incarnation with issues with sexual expression–this being will need to direct more energy and deal with life situations which involve sexual energy, possibly issues of control or validation. Depending on the life lessons, karmic debts and thoughtforms….each individual’s energy system will be set up with trends and tendencies which affect what kind of energy one works with in this lifetime and how they are specifically working with it.

To target, heal and possibly relieve each person of their karmic/healing issues, it is extremely important to know the actual conditions and possible causes to create a healing plan. Even if we do not necessarily think of Energy Vampirism as any sort of disorder that needs to be healed, there might be needs that are very specific to the individual’s energy system that need to be considered.  Another way to think of it is as an analogous to a physical body needing a specific type of diet–not that it is an illness or disorder, so much as it is a situation or condition not standard to the majority of the people.

Someone might be in this incarnation to work with their sexual chakra, sexual issues or sexual energy more than the average person. This might set up their energy system to need to work more in one area of life, with one particular energy much more than any of the others.  The situation of the particular “Vampire” might be more specific than being incarnated as a general “feeder”….but that their particular “dietary needs” might be geared towards a specific life area, some sort of cosmic metaphor or need to focus on a particular part of reality that their vampirism brings their attention to.

Personally–when I am talking to others in the Vampire subculture, I am not interested in celebrating the fictional vampire, partying in vampire costumes and flashing fangs, or role playing. That’s just me. I am interested in living as functional and productive a life as I can, under the description of myself as an Energy Vampire, as I understand that. This is the area of information that I have the most to offer. To help other Energy Vampires and Sang Vampires, I need to discern what they need from me.

My focus is on service through communication, not partying.

And just as I need to collect information when performing energy healing, to discern what kind of information I need to share–I focus on the needs of the Feeder in front of me. This might include discerning which specific feeding needs that they have–beyond discerning the specific needs for their type, I have no other need to divide us into any subcategories for any other reason.

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What Happens When A Vampire Gets Burned Out In The Vampire Community?

How does anyone get burned out?  In general, I believe it comes from the frustration of one’s personal experience not being able to match up with one’s personal expectations.  There is nothing wrong with having expectations—the burnout comes when one is emotionally attached to having those expectations manifest in some reasonable facsimile to what one would like to happen.

Not that I think of myself as any sort of elder in the community, but I do see myself as “seasoned”….not anyone new to the Vampire Community, with some measure of time and experience in the Vampire and metaphysical communities.  I came in to the community, not wanting or needing to confirm any identification with the mythical Vampire image.  I had my own spiritual and psychic experience, up to that point that I entered….and fell in with others who shared similar experiences.  These others were gathering under the label of “psychic vampires” and “vampires”.

If we had gathered under one of the umbrellas of the psychic community, some group category like “clairvoyants” or “empaths”–that would have been completely fine with me.  For whatever reason, I found myself interacting with individuals who had comparable realities and who offered me information which made my navigation through my personal world much easier.

Here’s where the positive benefits gets mixed in with the negative–just as any group is not going to only have those who are blessings to our lives, there are also individuals who bring in interactions which are not as productive or beneficial.  We fall into these interactions to the degree which we have the same negative issues or can entertain these issues.  Some of them are not completely bad, but they can sometimes be as simple as distracting us from more positive activities.  Non-productive or wastes of time.

I have come to my own way of understanding my personal experience.  This includes my perception of what I understand as my mental, emotional and spiritual events.  Maybe to some degree, I am using what I think of as “real” to me as the gauge to what I can relate to in others.  Because I constantly evaluate whether my perception is based on accurate observation or wishful thinking, whether my observation is on my subjective experience or objective reality….I expected that all other members of the Vampire Community did the same.  It might have been unfair of me to assume that all members of the Community had the same level of metaphysical leanings, and therefore the same way of working with information.

What seems to be a common trend in many online Vampire groups is the preoccupation with the imagery of the Fictional Vampire.  This includes flooding groups with dark artwork and some role playing.  On one hand, I want to respect everyone’s desire to share whatever information/art that they want.  On the other hand, one part of my brain feels like I was introduced into the Vampire Community under the precept of meeting with individuals who had similar life experiences.  The other precept was that we gather to enrich each other’s lives with relevant information and to support each other socially, simply because we are alike.

Life is full of grey areas–unwritten, unspoken expectations…vague agreements and understandings.  No guarantees.  How much right do I have to disagree or complain because my expectations on what I wanted to experience in the Vampire Community are not being met to the degree to which I envisioned?  Do I have any right to try to make and keep a space that is accordance with my vision of what I want to experience?

Isn’t that what everyone does, without even thinking about it?

Right now, I am still in a state of transition.  I will see what develops naturally.

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A Personal Note On My Personal Experience As A Serious Member of The Vampire Community

To be perfectly honest, I’m not sure if I’m currently having a breakdown, a breakthrough or this is just a regular, run-of-the-mill anxiety attack.  At any rate, I seem to have hit that wall that I assume that most serious members of the Vampire Community eventually crash into.

I’m burned out.

Given, my time as a conscious, participating member hasn’t been that long.  Let’s just assume that my involvement in the GVC grew naturally out of my time in the general Pagan/Magickal Community…so that my experience with people who belong to fringe groups has been a continuous series of interactions.

I’m thinking of this as an adjustment period.  I am accepting and getting used to particular working conclusions about what I can expect out of the General Vampire Community…and therefore, with what I will feel comfortable with contributing.

I identify as an Energy Vampire, a Psychic Vampire and/or an Eros Vampire, depending on the situation in which I share this information.  Whenever I use any of these terms, it is at the beginning of a longer dialog.  These labels are shorthand introductions which I explain in fuller detail, for the purposes of a deeper or longer conversation.  I don’t use these terms to get a reaction or for shock value.  I am way beyond thinking that these terms impress people, except when used in role play.

I use these terms because they seem to be the best to use, at the moment.  As they are generally defined in the Community, they encapsulate the experience of those of us who have a particular reality–a subjective experience, a perception, a way of dealing with our internal and external worlds.  From the outside, some people consider energy vampirism a sort of religion….to me, it is more of a philosophy to describe our particular life experience, as we understand it.

That being said, I share my personal experience to be helpful to those in the world who have a similar perception of their experience in this reality.  My secondary intention is to be helpful to those who do not necessarily relate to the same experiences, but get something positive out of sharing any of my information or perspective.

Here is where my ego is becoming frustrated–I perceive so many people who do not necessarily believe that they are having the same internal experience as an energy vampire; but are much more caught up in wanting other people to perceive that they are something special, glamorous, frightening or unique.  I completely accept that this is my problem–that I am reacting to others…that on some level, what they think matters to me.

From what I see and how I interpret it, there are not many magickal, metaphysical or spiritual people.  Many people dip into the waters for occasional or superficial references–but, as far as people who live through the constant reference system….those people are few and far between.

If this is the way it is, I will eventually readjust and accept that.  What seems to be misleading for most of us is that some of us become accustomed to the idea that people are religious or spiritual, because of what they tell us.  As far as living like a spiritual being, some of us are not so constant in our reference points.

 

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How To Get Your Needs Met In The Vampire Community

Welcome to the Vampire Community.
Please excuse the mess. We are currently under the process of reconstruction….uh, renovations…uhm, no, no…some areas are being reconstructed, but then we have some wonderful sitting areas that are just fine. Have you seen our libraries? We have a variety of libraries to choose from. Some even serve alcohol.
To make your stay in the Vampire Community as productive and pleasant as possible, we recommend that you spend a few minutes deciding on what it is that you need and want from the Community, at large. No need to be shy. The only right answer is the honest one.  The more clear you are about which areas you need to be educated in, the quicker you can be directed to the appropriate sources. 
Regardless of how the Modern Vampire Community started…regardless of how mythology defines what a “real vampire” is…regardless of how society understands or misunderstands us….we find ourselves drawn the umbrella group of the GVC, under the various ways of what Vampires, Modern Living Vampires and Real Living Vampires are currently defined as.
We find ourselves gathered on one common ground. The most productive way to spend our time as a group is to respect our various needs and fulfill them to the best of our abilities in ourselves and the newer members that enter our Community. That being said, being perfectly honest about one’s needs comes under the assumption that one has the ability to know, understand and accept what one’s real needs are….and to separate those real needs from one’s wishes and desires.
In this case, the possible problems are that not everyone has the ability to know what is their real needs are….how to communicate them properly to others…and that the other members will accept their communication of those needs, at face value.  Keeping this in mind might help the newcomer take care to express their needs more clearly and to not take any disagreement so personally.
Another mistake that many people make is that they assume that everyone else has the insight and the emotional clarity to understand their own internal psychological processes. Along with this is the additional mistake that some people assume that everyone is respectful of other people’s interpretations of their needs and experience.  Do not assume that EVERY member of the GVC is self-aware, accepting of other’s experience, an expert in any or all fields, or even necessarily helpful.  Allow each person to reveal their best qualities, while not holding it against them that they are still human, with possible human shortcomings. 
The GVC is more of a jungle–OVC and in-person VC, alike. We have our pockets and islands of civilization, but not every area is friendly and cooperative. (This just sounds like the rest of the world to me.) I don’t recommend developing a “thicker skin” to any newcomer.  Either you have one or you don’t. People who try to fake having a thicker skin, when they have actually have a “thin” one….are those sensitive types who are going to pretend that they are not reacting to every little stimulus–when they are actually overreacting internally, until they finally explode (or implode).
If other people’s words trigger your internal reactions, the best thing that you can do is explore which INTERNAL associations you have with those words and concepts and how they are linked to EARLIER events and memories, in your personal history. Strong emotional reactions might be linked to pre-existing mental and emotional thought processes….the associations between current words, images and events and what they remind you of in your personal history.
Kind and helpful people are where you find them. There is a mix of intense personalities in the GVC. Some are cooperative. Some are hostile. Just like the mix of people in the world outside of the GVC. If you don’t find what you need in a particular group–online or in-person–separate yourself from those people and keep looking. On the flipside to that, keep in mind that most of us in the Vampire Community are not being paid to interact with others, so any time/attention/information that is being shared is based on the generosity of those members sharing. Be gracious and appreciative for anything that another member of the GVC shares with you.
And finally, be aware of your personal need for feeling special.  We are navigating through life, together. Give up the need to try to make others validate you or make you feel special. Regardless of what some of us make it look like, this is not the contest to find the next Dracula.  Stop competing.  Stop posing.  Stop flexing–hoping that someone will recognize your amazing powers, that you are descended from vampire royalty, that you’re an old soul, that you’re on a mission from Lilith.  We are all equal as feeders, although we might have different dietary needs. If there is a subconscious, unconscious, unspoken need to feel special….keep in mind, that there are probably PLENTY of other members of the GVC who are at the same level of emotional need to feel the same thing. I won’t tell someone to give up the need to FEEL special–feeling special is completely and more directly fulfilled through private, internal methods.  Feeling special through the validation of others only fulfills one, temporarily.
We have plenty of members in the GVC; but keep in mind that true Elders, Teachers and Leaders are few and far between.  Just because one runs a group, a House or sets themselves up in any position with any title does not mean that they have anything of substance to offer.  As a newcomer, be courteous and respectful….if only because you are entering their territory….and allow each teacher to show you what they have to offer.  If you need to take your leave from them, do it with grace and dignity.  What you need might not all be found in one place, but rather stitched together from different places.
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From The House of Shadow Faerie–Leadership

In the world of the Vampire Community, the title of Leader is thrown around carelessly.  In common use, it is almost synonymous with Elder, King or Queen.  Unless these terms are clearly defined, the duties and responsibilities of a Leader are also left undefined….and there is more room for ego trips and personality issues than actual leadership.  A Leader is more of a guide and role model, not the dictator of some social club.

A Leader leads others towards something or away from something else.  What does a Vampire Leader lead to?  There is no Vampire army, so it is not a Leader in the military sense.  A Leader in the Vampire Community leads their people out of ignorance, out of dysfunctionality, out of confusion.  A Leader leads their people into full awareness, helping the newly awakened or misinformed blossom into their full potential as an evolved vampiric being.  This is not the delusion of role playing.  A Leader helps the individual vampire to become aware of and deal with any and all negative aspects of their condition, to the best of both their abilities to facilitate this personal growth.  Also, when applicable, a Leader helps the individual vampire to nurture the positive aspects of their condition–again to the best of the capabilities of both parties involved, in this cooperative effort.

To be an effective Leader in the Community, one must be able to navigate through the waters of social interaction with others, within their own particular group and the cooperative web of other groups and individuals in their network.  To be as effective as possible, it is necessary to be as emotionally neutral as possible when dealing with others.  Humans–all Vampires included–can be emotionally driven.  An evolved being knows that emotions are to be mastered, not catered to.  If one stays objective and unemotional when dealing with others, one can stay focused on whatever task is at hand.  It is socially acceptable to react out of emotion when others do so first.  However, this is the sign of the flock….to be affected by lower emotion.  To be a great Leader, one must practice being bigger than the moment and being the most effective, by not reacting out of emotion in the moment of debate and discussion.  There is a time and place to process fear-based emotions, such as anger.  Conviction, confidence and passion are not the same creatures.  An effective Leader knows when to act out of their center and not trigger others’ emotional reactions.

A Leader looks at the bigger picture.  They consider all possible factors involved when dealing with others and, while they consider what is best for their most intimate connections, also consider the effects and affectations of those who are connected to those involved.  A Leader is a thinker, not a bully.  Keeping peace in the larger Vampire Community is practical.  The newly awakened are attracted to and find groups and vampire types outside of our own.  If we are cooperative and respectful to others of the larger community, we can direct the newly awakened to those kindred type which would benefit them most.  We are like a village, making sure everyone’s children finds their way back to their respective homes at the end of the day.

A Leader acknowledges that those individuals that have found their way to him or her are individuals.  This means that the individual has strengths and weaknesses inside and outside of what makes them a Vampire.  An effective Leader is as realistic as possible about their charges and empowers them in their personal growth.  True empowerment is not showing a Vampire how to snarl and bare their teeth at every imaginary threat, but how to remain centered and calm, to evaluate when the threat is actually harmless.  More often than not, when a Vampire finds their center, we realize that most threats are harmless.

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Missing A Possible Opportunity In the Vampire Community

With all due respect, it seems that some Churches have little internal conflict during their meetings because the majority of the members ARE followers.  Some of us might make fun of them, but some people are entirely comfortable being “sheep”–they would much rather do the minimum of whatever the requirements are to be considered an obedient member of their flock and nothing more.  These groups work because the members find docility to be a virtuous quality.  There are a few leaders, but the majority are quite happy to remain followers.
This is not the case in the Pagan, Vampire and other “metaphysical” Communities.  Many people come into our communities quietly, respectfully…but, with time, many are not content to be followers.  Over time, members want to lead their own groups.  Sometimes, it is because they want to be of service to their fellow members of the Community–other times, it is because they want the recognition and the praise of being a good leader, elder or teacher.  As one of my Pagan mentors told me, Witchcraft and the other Magickal traditions tend to attract people with huge egos.
Huge egos are huge because they are swollen.  They are swollen, because of the emotional impacts or negative infections of life…big egos are such, because they are damaged.  Damaged egos want power, even if it is only the illusion that others are giving us their personal power.  Those individuals who want to be recognized as being in positions of power, sometimes do so to make up for how wounded they feel on the emotional level.  Spirituality and religion are very often pathways of healing.  Those who are the most vocal often tend to want to be coven leaders, teachers or authorities of some sort in their particular traditions.  Rather than focusing on personal growth or wisdom, they look for the secondary signs of someone of value or importance to others….represented as some sort of office in a group or badge/title of office.
The Vampire Community seems to overlap quite a bit with the Pagan Community.  Besides the fact that many Vampires are also involved in the Pagan and Magickal pathways, it seems that there are many in the community who fall into two other subcategories.  Even if they are actual Blood or Energy Feeders, it might be that they also embrace aspects of the Vampire Mystique to make up for existing ego flaws and issues, perhaps playing up aggressive behaviors and mannerisms associated with the Fictional Vampire–even when these aggressive behaviors might not have been part of their personality, without having heard about the Fictional Vampire.  Some members of the community are not Blood or Energy Feeders at all, but are drawn to identify with their impression of the Fictional Vampire, because they cannot relate to finding those empowered qualities within themselves.
Regardless of whether someone is an actual Feeder or not, we have a community of discordant personalities, that cluster into smaller groups, before breaking apart again, scattering and reforming into newer groups on a constant basis.  It seems that despite all the efforts that many well-meaning and helpful individuals of the GVC hold, much of our time is spent creating new groups and alliances, because of infighting, disagreement and otherwise unpleasant interactions.  Even if a group keeps the same name and banner, its member count is constantly rolling over and changing.
One of the problems that we have in our groups is a very human one.  We are not instructed on how to socialize and form cooperative communities, much less trained how to do so.  We do not get along with others, in part, because of the personality flaws that we are never taught how to deal with.  Unpleasant and discordant personalities are not taught to be the responsibility of the individual–all of our problems are, more often than not, projected onto others.
At best, we are told to control our outward behavior to some degree.  With personality issues, our emotional reactions can seem so uncontrollable that we justify acting out on them.  We incorrectly judge our emotional reaction as the fault and problem of others, so we feel justified in taking them out on the other party and demanding that they change their behavior for us.  Some of us have such extreme internal activity that we feel the impulse to express it in some way–some of this is can be in response to anxiety, depression, mania or a variety of other mental and emotional conditions and illnesses.
Many of us are not raised with whatever it means to get along with other people, much less taught how to put aside our feelings (reactions) when working with others in groups, towards common goals.  Some of us have personalities which are naturally compatible with others in general and some of us learn how to control ourselves, when we recognize the value of doing so.  But, for the most part, there are plenty of examples of people who overreact, bully and otherwise allow the EXPRESSION of their feelings and opinions to be more important than focusing on group goals or projects.
On one hand, it might be that some members of the GVC have the attitude that all adult members should know how to be cooperate, simply because we are of adult age….and therefore, must have the total capacity to do so….but, that they simply CHOOSE not to.  As a Latino, a Leo, a gay man and someone who works in retail sales….I have seen the rawest, ugliest part of humanity.  I beg to differ.  If we all have the capacity to control our emotions, that working conviction (belief)  is missing in some of us.  Without the conscious belief that we can influence our own emotions, that faculty is literally inaccessible to our conscious personality.
Telling someone to “just do it” does not work for everyone.
My guess is that some group leaders assume (hope) that all cooperative, stable members of the GVC will eventually gravitate to their particular groups.  If they wait long enough, and put in enough effort, only compatible (and Real) Vampires will eventually fill their groups–whether that is an in-person House or online group or a combination of the two.  This seems to be the unspoken working theory in some Pagan and Otherkin groups, as well.
Another possible factor is the underlying idea is that “real” Vampires have a naturally strong personality or a highly aggressive personality.  In these cases, there is nothing that needs to be addressed, when we believe that is a defining quality of a Modern Living Vampire.  This is simply the way that “real Vampires” are and nothing can be changed in them, so it is simply something to put up with.  However, because no one is addressing personality issues, this aggressive behavior is being allowed in all non-Vampire GVC members, as well.  If a “real” Vampire is just supposed to be aggressive, this same behavior is being allowed in the non-Vampire members of the GVC; which includes all misbehaving Role Players, trolls and (misbehaving) Life Stylers.
The GVC already has a strong overlap with the Metaphysical and Magickal Communities.  Many members of the GVC also practice magick, metaphysics and engage in self-development and self-growth practices. We are occultists and new agers. Emotional clearing/healing is not a foreign concept to many in the community.  All Vampires are still human–and that includes having an emotional body that comes with emotional issues.  Not all systems of emotional healing work for all people–however, if we as a Community promoted these healing systems and had practical, friendly working information in place, then it could cut down on personal wounds in the individuals of the GVC, which would cut down on the amount of emotional outbursts and other emotionally-fueled reactions in interactions with others.
If it were standard practice to encourage emotional clearing, then all members (regardless if what they actually are) might be less inclined to react out of damaged emotion and automatic triggers.  Confidence, born out of desire or passion, can be part of the Vampire Mystique.  Aggression can often mask insecurity, born out of fear, anger or other negative emotions.
If emotional clearing/healing were standardized practices, many members of the GVC might be noticeably less compulsive and combative. People with very strong emotional impulses can’t relate to the idea of behaving properly or “doing the right thing”.  With strong emotional reactions, the reasonable “adult” part of the mind is simply not in control.  Not that everyone should be given a free pass to act out whenever they want.  We should still have consequences for our personal reactions and actions.  However, since so many of us are already involved in metaphysics, magick and self-healing practices….it could be of benefit to share resources and encourage emotional clearing, healing and health for everyone.  The benefit could be less NEGATIVE emotion, with more clear thinking in our discussions and interactions.
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